MY SELF ALWAYS REMMEMBER BEFORE
AND NOW 2014
(At
5.30am first day 2014….ok everybody one day off and take rest at home, check
again my son homework because not finish yet for all homework….yes, make me
angry because all the time always watch television all channel 45days in school
season ………. For me very simple life, getting in the mindset if not done try it again…if my son can’t do that
at the time I always say’s …..ok, tomorrow you must do that must be finish your
homework but I’am still angry ….. I always motivate my self so that’s why I
want my son follow me as what I want ……. that's very simple and I always say's ............
1). Getting
in the Mindset
To my loving son, Get positive. It's pretty hard to get anything done when we're
stuck on thoughts like, "Ugh, life sucks and it's raining." Thoughts
like those make us want to just curl up in our beds until someone physically
drags us out. You can't do that! Positive thoughts are the only way you'll even
find motivation in the first place.
- If you find yourself
thinking negative thoughts, just stop. Don't finish it. Divert your
attention elsewhere. Especially if you're thinking about your motivation!
This task in front of you? It's totally doable and you have the abilities
to do it. Any other thinking will keep you from even trying.
2).Get Confident
I always see your face every time when we take break every morning before you go to school. I always say ......... Along with
thinking positive about your world, you gotta think positive about you.
If you think you're incapable, it'll seriously put a damper on the amount of
effort you give this task. Why would you bother doing something you don't think
you can do? Exactly. You won't.
- To get started, count your
successes. What do you have going for you? What have you done in the past
that was awesome? What resources do you have at your disposal? Think of
all the things you've achieved in the past. For what reason would you not
be able to achieve what you want now?! You've done similar things before.
3). Get hungry.
When talks about motivation, repeats
over and over, "You gotta be hungry!" What he's saying here is that
you have to actually want it. You can't imagine a life without it. Thinking
something would be nice, being full of velleities won't get you anywhere. Want
it. If you don't really, really want it, what are you doing trying to motivate
yourself?
- Sometimes it involves a
little twisting to convince yourself that you want it. Struggling getting
to work? Well, is that a path to anything else? If you've been really
for a vacation to Japan/USA/Paris/Hawaii , think about it like that. You really,
really wanna get to Japan/USA/Paris/Hawaii and working will get you there. It's a lot
easier to do something you don't want to do when you have a purpose in
mind a purpose that you're hungry for.
4). Know setbacks will happen.
It's important to go into a
behavior (possibly even a lifelong habit) knowing that there will be failures
along the way. Being a perfectionist about yourself will just leave you
frustrated and tempted to give up. There will be times when you fail. You just
have to know that you're capable of getting back up and, better yet, that you will.
- Your failures or setbacks
have nothing to do with you and everything to do with being human. They
happen. Sometimes they'll happen because of you (not every decision can
be stellar), but sometimes they'll happen because of circumstances that
are beyond your control. Going into this with a level head will benefit
you greatly in the long run.
5). Focus on positive
goals.
It's
really simple to know what we don't want. It's really simple to know what we're
afraid of. Often it's harder to pinpoint what exactly would make us happy and
what exactly we're striving for. However, in order to get anything done, we
gotta start thinking in terms of positive goals, not negative fears. Instead of
"I don't want to be poor," a better goal is "I'd like to save X
amount of money each month." See how the latter is much, much more doable?
And less scary!
- Positive here doesn't mean
radiating beams of sunshine. It means something you can do, something in
the affirmative. A goal of "not being fat" is demotivating in
itself. "Losing ten pounds through diet and exercise" is
something that doesn't leave you frowning at the mere thought of it.
6). Keep it small.
Having lofty goals is tough. You
take one look at a book that's seven volumes long and you don't want to read
it. Instead, break it up. The rest of the volumes are still there, they're just
waiting in the wings for when you're ready to bring them on.
- Instead of "I want to
lose 50 pounds" think of something like "I want to lose 2
pounds this week," or "I want to work out 4 or 5 days a
week." These will warrant similar results but are easier on the
mind.
7). Track your progress.
Since the dawn of time, humans
have searched for purpose and direction. And this doesn't just have to do with
existentialism -- we seek purpose in our jobs, relationships, and even hobbies.
If something is unfulfilling, we don't do it. So whether you're losing weight,
working overtime, or studying for college, track what you're doing! This will
give you drive and show you the positive outcomes of your behavior. It will
give you purpose.
- Make sure to track your
behaviors and their results. Not only do you need the results to
look at and go, "Gee! I really am awesome! Look at what I did!"
you'll need the results to see what does and does not work for you. If
you try three different methods of studying, three different workouts,
etc., which one gave you the best results for your effort? You can then
streamline and strategize from there.
8). Take breaks.
We are not machines (but even machines need
breaks). Studies have shown that students who take breaks are more effective
studiers. And it's common
knowledge that our muscles need breaks, too. Breaks aren't for the lazy --
they're for those that know they want to keep going.
- It's up to you to gauge
when those breaks need to be. It also depends on what the ultimate end
goal is. Not only should there be mini breaks in your day, but there need
to be life breaks, too.
9). Do what you enjoy.
Most of us have jobs we aren't
crazy about, workouts we don't want to do, and a to-do list that we'd pay other
people to get completed. These things won't go away, so we have to make them as
manageable and as enjoyable as possible. If you don't enjoy it, it may be there
forever.
Think about your job. If it stinks, how can you make it better? Can you
ask to work on a specific project that interests you? How can you focus your
time on the aspects that you do like? If working out is a bummer, find a
different one! You don't have to be a marathon runner to burn calories. Go
swimming, take a class, or go hiking. If you don't like the exercise you're
doing, you won't stick with it.
10). Use rewards.
This is a point to be considered carefully. The
last thing you want to do is to associate everything with a Snickers bar.
However, rewards can be very powerful when used sparingly and efficiently. When
you've completed something, be sure to do something you deserve!
- You cannot reward yourself
for every 5 minutes of the activity you're trying to do. That'll just
blow up your concentration and be time-consuming. However, even small
goals, when met, should be rewarded. Did you work out every day this
week? Great -- take a day to just do some yoga at home and watch a movie.
11). Don't be afraid of making mistakes.
In order to find the best way of
achieving something, we often have to do things we've never done before.
Mistakes will happen if you're growing and getting better. You can X them off
your list of possibilities and narrow your path to action down from there.
Technically, mistakes are a good thing. At the very least they serve a purpose.
- There's also the fear of
looking stupid that keeps a lot of people from trying things. Whether
it's raising your hand in class or trying out that new equipment that
you're not sure how to use, it's human nature to want to stay in our
comfort zone. But for the most effective results, if you truly want to
get good grades, to get thin, or to get started in that business, you
gotta do things you may not want to do.
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- On a similar thread, don't
let the mistakes drag you down. It's too easy to make one, feel like
we're so behind there's no point in trying anymore and just stop.
But if you tell yourself it's not an option, it won't happen. Failing
doesn't matter -- getting back on the horse is all that does.
Keep motivators around you. This one is pretty
straightforward: we need reminders to keep ourselves going. These can be people
or things -- whatever might keep you in the right mindset. It's natural to get
off-balance and forget where we want to be -- these external motivators offer
focus and direction.
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You can
do a whole bunch of small things to get you in gear. Change your desktop
background on your computer. Put a post-it note on your wall. A reminder on
your phone. Utilize the hubbub around you and put it to your advantage.
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People
can be motivators, too! Tell everyone you know that you're trying to lose 10
pounds. Hopefully they'll offer resources and make the path that much easier,
in addition to holding you accountable.
13). Keep good company.
Unfortunately, people can also
be demotivating. We all have that friend that desperately wants us to eat
another piece of cheesecake. That person is not good company. In order to get
going on our path to success, everyone needs cheerleaders along the way! Tell
your friends and family what you're trying to stay motivated with. Do you have
a few close people in your network that can help you focus and stay driven?
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Having a
mentor that's been through the same things you have will be super useful. Do
you know someone who's started their own business, lost 50 pounds, or otherwise
achieved their dreams? Talk to them! How'd they do it? Their perseverance and
display of just how doable it is may be what you need to stay energized and
motivated.
14). Keep learning.
As you go, you're likely to get
bored, antsy, or lose attention. To avoid all these pitfalls, keep learning!
Spice it up! It's hard to stay motivated on anything long-term. But if
the goal keeps changing, if your knowledge keeps morphing, it'll be easier.
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If you're
aiming for weight loss, read success stories and blogs. Talk to trainers at
your gym. Hit up a nutritionist. Tackle new elements (methods of training,
dieting plans, etc.) one at a time. Keeping it fresh will keep your mind
fresh.
15). Only compare you to you.
The best way to get demotivated
and fast is to compare yourself to others. You'll never be them and they'll
never be you, so what's the point? Though you've heard it a billion times
before, it bears repeating: the only person you should compare yourself to is
your previous self. It's only if you've improved that matters; not how anyone
else is doing.
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This is
part of why tracking progress is so necessary. In order to know where you are,
you need to know where you've been. If you've made progress, you have nothing
to be ashamed of, regardless of what the competition is doing.
16). Help others.
When you're nearer your goals, odds are you've
learned a lot from your work along the way. Use this knowledge to help others!
Not only will it motivate you, but it will motivate them. Don't you wish you
had someone to help you along your way?
Have you lost some weight, gotten your business
started, or aced that test? Use what you know to help someone else and, better
yet, drill it into you. Just like studying out loud and reciting your facts to
someone else helps your understanding, helping someone else will keep you
focused and feeling good about your progress.
17). Set larger goals.
Once you start hitting those
small goals, there's nowhere to go but up! Start looking at the big picture --
focus on the end game. No more baby steps; it's time for the big leagues. Talk
about motivation! You can practically start making the itinerary for Hawaii
now! And you'll fit in that swimsuit, too!
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Make sure
to keep the end goal in mind or it'll start to feel far away and unachievable.
Why have you gone to all this work anyway? You know exactly why -- and the
light is at the end of the tunnel. What will you do when you reach this one?
Onto the next, hopefully!
- Speak
as though you are already the way you want to be. Do not say "I am
becoming positive"; "I am positive" is much better.
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- There
will be hurdles, but you have got to keep going. One wrong step can wash
out all the good steps you have taken and similarly one right step can
also leap you forward. This is life.
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- The
journey of unleashing your potential is truly a worthy one. During this
journey, knowingly/unknowingly you will have helped many unleash their
respective potential.
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- Positive
affirmations repeated often will help you become strong. Choose one that
fits with your problem. If you are scared, "I am safe." If you are
shy, "I am a very confident person." Avoid using negative words
to stay focused.
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